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love fights fair. Day 13

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  • “Talk with your spouse about establishing healthy rules of engagement. If your mate is not ready for this, then write out your own personal rules to ‘fight’ by. Resolve to abide by them when the next disagreement occurs.” I remember doing this the first time i did the love dare a year ago. I asked him to do it with me and we said said things like 1. Separation was not the solution 2. no fighting in front of our kids. 3. listen before speaking. 4. let the other finish thier thought before speaking 5. no touching in a angry way 6. if it got heated we were allowed to call a time out but the person who called the time out had 24 hours to resolve it. I broke every one of these except the first. He was always the one to want to leave before trying to fix the situation. While i tried to always fix it. He always let me know relationships are too much of a headache. I guess i have known that he was going to leave eventually. So this time around i couldn't ask him to do this with me. one we are not arguing or living together. and two this is about me and how i handle things. So i'm resolving to keep these same ones. Its easier said than done for this though. yes i can say illl be this way but in the heat of the moment i lose all ability to think of this. But i know i'm changing slowly. I feel a little more calmer in my everyday dealings. I'm not quick to point out flaws and what i believe is right. I know i am not 100% but i can feel God working on me.
  • This is why each day as you focus on Christ you will find that your actions will lead you feelings. This is important in those moments of heated moments. Remember you are being molded....

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