I chose to go again to see her at work as i have not seen much of her at our house and i don't go to her apartment unannounced. I stopped and she was surprised im sure as it was the second day, i ask if there was anything i could help her with, filing, moving stuff, she said no. In the time that i was there she told me she was working on a report and was a bit irritated and frustrated as people were bombarding her with things at the last minute. I said maybe a shoulder/ neck massage would help and proceeded to do just that for about 10 min, she did not resist or act uncomfortable in any way so i felt i went pretty well. When i was finished i wished her a great day and went on my way. Im sure she was a bit confused by that maybe expecting me to bring up relationship stuff but i did what i was there to do and left it at that.
I didn't hear from her the rest of the day, until eve when she called our daughter to offer to bring over dinner. I said that would be great although i knew i wouldn't be home when she got here as i was heading to the gym. After i returned there was a sandwich waiting for me, i texted and thanked her again for dinner and for thinking of me. Her response did catch me a bit, she said she was already picking up for our daughter and wasn't going to exclude me...i thought for a second and resisted the urge to respond at all negatively, i said simply, either way thanks again. I ended the night by texting her as i have been before bed.
Remember as time goes on she will purposely initiate comments that are negative, she needs a ways to fight the changes you are making to continue and justify her actions. At the same time, take them as blessings, because you are now learning to be humble and take them in a way that you never would have before. Which shows how much Christ has worked within you. And yes there will be a time when you break that in her.
You are doing great.