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Day 10: so tough

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  • I usually do everything around the house and so this dare is really tough for me... i can't think of anything that says I am here because I want to be... I make supper, pack lunch do his laundry, and he's almost never at home so I am well and truly stuck... 

    I do love my husband and yesterday I cried because when I greeted him (Day 9 dare), he said nothing you do is going to change my mind... he doesn't even look at me... I cooked a nice dinner which he didn't eat...

    Any advice on what I can do? Should I leave this dare until I can think of something???

  • After yesterday he is so rude to me, could the dares be pushing him away... i feel so unappreciated at the moment, still praying...

  • The dares are not pushing him away. He is in a state of mind that he is being convicted by the things you do. When you do the dares as Christ intended them to be done with no manipulation, and trusting Christ completely, then conviction becomes part of the journey. Remember this journey is between you and Christ not you and your husband. Growing in Christ trusting Him doing these dares is what creates His strength in your heart.

  • HI Sean

    Thanks for the above, this weekend was particularly tough because my husband did and said some awful stuff to me. I feel closer to God daily, i pray daily, I have even written a prayer out asking for the strength and that my faith be strengthened during this time...

    I keep reminding myself that my test will be my testimony...

    i didn't ever think these dares would be so difficult because I have always imagined myself to be very spiritual.

    I bought my husband a little book of Psalms, hoping he would read it but I am afraid of what he is going to say... So I haven't given it to him yet...

    I know i cannot force him or change him, so I just pray daily but I hate who he is becoming.

    His arrogance and pride know no bounds, and he blames me for everything that ever went wrong in our lives...

  • Right now you need to focus on your journey, leave your husband to Christ. There is nothing you can do, nothing you can force. In fact trying to do that is taking control back from Christ. Tis is your journey with Christ, do not worry about him right now, Christ is preparing your testimony.

  • I know, I am learning daily that everything is out of my control... I am begging God to give me strength to continue ... sometimes its really tough... with Christmas coming up and the holiday parties etc.. i feel like I might get lost... sometimes I feel like i should start all over again... It's so confusing... Day 18 was not completed and from Day 19 I've cried... because I am such a controlling person and giving away my control is like giving away a piece of myself... Aside from my husband all I want is peace in my heart... It affects everything I do... I just want to wake up and be happy... And I miss him... His birthday is coming up too... I never thought I would see this day when I don't spend momentous occasions with him...

  • This is where you need to lead your heart and let Christ do the rest. Remember it is those ways that got us here in the first place. So now we must trust Christ.

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