Day 1

Forum Post: Day 1

drkacy2b — Fri, 17 May 2013 01:04:00 GMT

Yesterday, I rewatched the movie "Fireproof." I have been struggling with finding a way to change the heart of the man that I love, and I have realized that I'm not the one who can change it. Only God can do that. I bought the book last night, and have read the introduction, day 1 and the first appendix on leading your heart. I am ready to embark on the day 1 dare.

This dare should be fairly easy, as Jeff and I do not live together. While in the past, my patience level has not been the greatest, I have realized that is usually when I'm not walking with the Lord. I am at my most patient when I'm resting in his word. I love Jeff with all my heart, and know that despite everything we have been through the past 17 years, we were always meant to be together. I have nothing left to lose - either Jeff's heart will change, or mine will. Either way, I want to learn to love as the Lord loves me, and that's what this journey is really about.

Today was day 1 for me - everything went well so far. Of course, when you're not living with someone, it's a lot easier to be patient with someone when you're not occupying space together 24/7. Last night before I went to bed, I sent him a text message saying good night and wishing him a good day the next day. This afternoon, we spoke regarding our son, and chatted for a while about a lot of silly stuff. He is going out of town for a training next week, so I asked him if there was anything that our son and I could take care of while he's out of town. We are taking care of his dog while he's gone, so that's something.

I'm going to read and pray about day 2 tonight. Not sure what this will look like yet, but I am leaving it into the hands of the Lord.

Kim

Forum Post: Re: Husband says he no longer loves me should I just let go?

Sean — Sat, 27 Apr 2013 11:16:00 GMT

Well it gets harder. If you can, take some time to watch fireproof. Alone. No interruptions.

Also, before you go any further, take some time to read in the appendix, especially the section on leading the heart.

Forum Post: Re: Can this be done when...

Sean — Tue, 23 Apr 2013 10:57:00 GMT

Well, first you must praise God for giving you the strength to beat down the temptations. And continue to stand your ground for Christ.

But more importantly know that Christ has a purpose for you, for this journey of the dares. And seek that purpose and His wisdom each moment to serve Him.

He will never forsake you...

Forum Post: Re: He doesn't want to be romantically involved with me......

Sean — Tue, 16 Apr 2013 10:15:00 GMT

This dare is a journey between you and Christ. Not you and your husband. Christ will use your husband as a tool in this journey. You need to trust Christ and allow Him to mold you more each day through the dares. Take some time and read the appendix especially the section on leading the heart.

And know the dares are there for you to do them as they are intended without you manipulating them as you see fit because of what the response may be, trust Christ, and allow Him to guide you through the days. This will allow you to experience and show His love, and not what the world believes love is.

Forum Post: Re: He's moved out and found love with someone else

Sean — Wed, 10 Apr 2013 10:20:00 GMT

Christ has brought you to this site for a reason. I believe that reason is to have you understand that it is possible. All things are with Christ.

The dare is a journey with Christ. Not with your husband. Yes the dares are specific to your husband, but these dares are a way for Christ to mold you in His image and understand that He is the only way to understanding love. Because Christ is love.

This journey is between you and Christ and your husband will be a tool that is used n many ways during this journey.

The first thing you must do now is read in the appendix about leading the heart. Understand what you are reading.

Then trust Christ each and every day in the dares. Do not read ahead. Take it one day at a time trusting Christ. Do the dares without manipulation. Don't worry about the reactions or even have expectations of the outcome of the dares. Start by trusting Christ to show you His love, His mercy. Most importantly trust Christ by doing the dares as they are intended,

Forum Post: Re: Day 1

Sean — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 22:46:00 GMT

That is because you live as the world has taught you. This journey will show you unconditional love, and forgiveness.

Forum Post: Re: Day 1 - Why Am I Here?

Sean — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 22:45:00 GMT

This journey will show you many things. But one thing that you must be prepared for is exposing your own selfishness that you currently justify by point out his.

Forum Post: Re: How to start. Please help!!

Sean — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 22:44:00 GMT

Learn to lead your heart as well. Look in the appendix about leading the heart.

Forum Post: Re: My husband left and says he no longer loves me

Sean — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 22:43:00 GMT

This journey you need to depend on Christ for your comfort. Everything else will follow. Setting your sights on things here will not satisfy what you seek.

Forum Post: Re: He already moved out when i was not there

Sean — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 22:41:00 GMT

Wen,

If you get some time... Read my journal entries, I think you will get a lot out of it.

Forum Post: Re: Day 1

Sean — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 22:40:00 GMT

Always remember this. With God ALL things are possible.

Forum Post: Re: Love Dare: Day 1

Sean — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 22:39:00 GMT

The famous hold out... LOL. Someone needs to break the selfish motive and the other will notice.

Stick to the dares and realize they must be done no matter what you think the response will be. And do not manipulate them in any way

Forum Post: Re: Should I tell my spouse and we do the love dare together?

Sean — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 22:37:00 GMT

Depend on Christ and learn to lead your heart even in the toughest times.

Forum Post: Re: Day 27 and before...my story.

foreverlearning — Wed, 27 Mar 2013 22:02:00 GMT

Hi Hopeful welcome to this site. If you like post your journey each day or whenever you feel the need to. You will receive encouragement as you work your way through.

Forum Post: Re: I need help

Sean — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 10:39:00 GMT

David? Nothing here

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Sean — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 10:38:00 GMT

I have to ask. If it is not made so, does He still deserve all the praise? Your last sentence of the first section seems to think this would be your test. If leveraging praise based on a selfish desire then I think you may be in for a bad situation. I know it may have not been meant that way, and I just want to be certain.

Forum Post: Re: What if?

Sean — Thu, 21 Feb 2013 11:10:00 GMT

Don't worry about that right now, as it says in the Bible today has enough worries of its own.

Take the journey and learn what Christ needs you to understand about love and about your walk with Him. Take some time and read in the appendix, especially the section on leading the heart.

Forum Post: Re: day 1 = terrified

Sean — Thu, 21 Feb 2013 11:09:00 GMT

Realize that this is a journey with Christ. Not your husband. Your husband will be a tool that Christ will use in this journey.

As you have experienced when you fell away, Christ never leaves or forsakes you. This journey will most certainly expose to you many things you never realized in your walk with Christ. It will show you through dare 1 how you have not had patience but Christ has with you. It will expose your selfishness through many things. In the end, you will be humbled. These are not bad things, in fact these things are true blessings because you will find through Christ what true love really is, because Christ is love.

Forum Post: Re: Held my tounge

Sean — Thu, 21 Feb 2013 11:04:00 GMT

You have posted on the journals section as well correct? I responded to that post.

Forum Post: Re: Day 1....He cheated and I'm the one doing this....

Sean — Sun, 17 Feb 2013 12:51:00 GMT

Praise God. Because this is really a journey between you and Christ. As your fiancé will be a tool in this journey.