Well, I have started the Dare. I have had this book for about 8 months and haven't tried to really give it a fair shake. Then yesterday, my husband of 13 months tells me that it is over. He is done. He is so heavy hearted right now with everything we have gone through over the past year (he met his biological mother for the first time in 30 years, he found out that his dad has lied to him for years about her and then a couple months later we went through a miscarriage). Things have been very rough but I didn't feel like it was to the point of giving up on our marriage. I went to bed last night after telling my husband I would be leaving in the morning to go to a friend's house for a week. I woke up this morning to the only thought in my head was "Don't Go!" All I can gather from this is that God does not want me to leave my husband at this time. So I started the Dare.
I have tried to do the Dare a couple times before and I have failed before I hit day 4..... this time, I am beyond committed. I am committed to Christ and to trying to fix my marriage. So far I have not gotten any positive responses, but honestly I haven't expected any. We will see how this goes.... so far he hasn't up and moved out so I take that as a good sign.......
Good Luck Danigrier..I know its hard but continue to pray and press your way through this. My marriage is in shambles right now and I am trying to learn to forgive my husband. and soften my heart because it has harden so much the past year and a half with lies, women, sneakiness, non communication etc. and I feel if I do ALL I can to try to get back where we were without me asking for a divorce again than I know in my heart at least I tried. This is also something that you can work on YOU and your relationship with Christ and hopefully the rest will follow. (him seeing a difference in you and your actions and began to wonder how he is to take on the husband role)..at least thats what I'm believing and paying for..Good Luck!!
Christ has chosen you to do this journey... When you give up on it, you take control back from Christ and do things your way! Hence things getting worse. Read in the appendix about leading the heart.l. It is so important in a situation like this.