This is my first day on the site. I have read several post from others that have used the Dares. As other I have seen on here, I have a difficult road ahead of me. My wife and I are currently seperated making my work that much harder. She has told me she is not at a place to work on our marriage right now and doen't know if she will be. The reasons for our seperation is 50/50, I have not show my wife True Love in our marriage. At a time when she was willing to work on the relationship, I was blind to the real issue, the problems. I am praying I haven't relized to late.
The pain and hurt is overwhelming at times. However, I am committed to doing what I can to strenghten myself in God and put our marriage in his hands. He has already spoken to me today, I was channel surfing and found the movie Fireproof on a channel that I never even surf that high on the list before. Which led me to this website.
I am a humble person, but never to proud to ask for prayers to help us through this hardship in our marriage. I love my wife unconditionally, I just haven't chosen the correct path to show her in the past. I am taking my first steps on the new path. It is comforting to know that there are many others on the same journey as I am.
Thank you in advance for the prayers, I am returning them in kind for all of you.
First thing... Make sure you go get the love dare book today... ONLY READ one day at a time do not look ahead. Also, take a few extra minutes and read the appendix about leading the heart. Come back each day to post about your dares. We always have input to help you in this journey
Im in the same situation. My wife left in 08 and we are still separated. she wanted a divorce but has never filed. Iam sick of living like a single husband. our kids pray daily that God would bring mom and dad back together. Now they are praying that we dont divorce. I went last week to the court house and got papers, but i have not filed. i figured id give her what she wanted. Did the LOVE DARE in 08 and it didnt work cause she was with someone. she was divorced in her heart. Now yesterday, it came back to me to do it again. I dont want to be rejected again. we still were doing B-days and seeing her inlaws together then still live apart with no reconcilling on her part. how sad that the kids think God is working when in reality we arent. Im in crisis mode. it will go to divorce unless God intervens.
The dare is a journey, not a destination. It is one between you and Christ, not you and your wife.
The rejection is something that is a feeling of this world, of the flesh. When you take a journey with Christ and walk with Him, the success of the dares are trusting Him in each and every one to complete them as they are intended, not with our manipulation in them. The humbling moments are things that will allow Christ to mold you. Period.
And as for rejection. What a feeling. Imagine the pain Christ felt and does feel that it took you this long to really come back to it. But Praise Him.... He is waiting for you.
Hi JoeK68, you know i feel sort of releived to know that I am not doing this for my spouse but I am doing this so that I can have peace with God. Perhaps I am being selfish, but honestly my passion and desire is for God and much needed rest from striving! living in fear and manipulating situations.
My priority is to present my body as a living sacrifice unto the Lord and to know that this channel of a Love Dare is there to help me document my emtions as I travel is wonderful becuase I finally realise that I have a freind in Christ.
I am so happy knowing that alone.
I dont have to mope around trying to have my spouse listen to me, understand me, consider me, be satisfied with me etc.....
I just want to please God.
I am ready to die that Christ may live, even at teh cost of the marriage becasue it and my spouse have been an idol and a stumbling block to my devotion to the Lord for long enough.
When you learn through the dares about Gods plan for marriage and not living by the worlds idea, there is no longer an idol, but a partner that completes you as part of Gods perfect plan.