Thanks for responding to me. I am beginning to think that my husband thinks that the grass is greener on the side he is on and he is NOT GUARANTEED anything when it comes to me. He has a sister who did the same thing as him a few years back. She left her long term common law husband and is living with some pompous jerk. She claims to be happy and all . He sees how she is living and wants the same. He sees it on tv and other people who encourage his behaviour.
I sometimes surprise myself because I continue to pray for this man and I remember how Christ was hurt ,rejected and ridiculed by others and he STILL CHOSE to love and forgive. My pastor at church said that he was very proud and also shocked that I made the chose to continue to love and pray for my husband. He said that many people that he has encountered who are christians would NEVER go that route.
I also get frustrated because I am 41 years old,childless,without a husband and soon to be jobless if my workplace chooses to go on strike.
I do appreciate everyones support and prayers on this site.
God Bless you all
He is following his heart and that will only lead him to an empty one. Just keep your testimony strong. God has a plan and it is in effect right now!
I really feel for mrsg ... I too, haven't written here for a little while ... I am still praying. We had our worst arguement 4 days ago when I went to the basement and found him testing this woman that he told me he was having no more contact with. I had told him earlier if I found out he lied to me I would contact her myself. Well to say the least when I caught him he remembered my promise. He got really upset and grabbed my arm ... that is something he has never done to me ... but I am a person of my word and I did contact her ... but I really suprised myself or should I say God surprised me ... I had no anger for her only sadness ... instead of blessing her out I witnessed to her ... I told her that I knew she was having problems in her own marriage and that she wasn't happy. i told her that she wasn't going to find happiness in any man, or money or anything here on the earth. I went on to tell her of Gods love and sacrafice for her. God himself had to control here because it all came out without me even thinking about what was being said. My husbands sister was here and she couldn't believe what she was hearing. I even left it open that the woman could call me any time she needed someone to talk to ... I also told her I had witnessed miracles ( I didn't tell her this but one was happening as we spoke). I acctually feel better after this ... and she told me she was having no contact with my husband except to email him goodbye ... which she did and also told him to thank me for all I had told her.
We talked for about 30 minutes and i have been praying for her as well. I have sent her several emails of scripture for encourgement. My husband was really mad but you know, God took a situation and I feel made a chance of redemption not only for her but for me.
So if I could offer any advice I would say to Pray not only for your spouse but for the person they may be involved with. Pray for their soul and relationship with God.
Thank you for sharing. That is something I have not been doing - praying for the other woman. I will start now.
You cannot forgive one without the other....
thank you to everyone who responded to my post and shared advice and prayers. I appreciate you all.
I stayed away from writing on here for a few days because I needed to collect my thoughts. Right after I posted on here =. I happened to speak with my husband and a BOMB was dropped. He started to tell me that he can no longer have me at our home. I need to come up with a plan by the end of April. I was taken back by him. He started telling me that I NEED to get a roommate and that they can pay a portion and he will make up the rest. I told him that it may just be best if we sold the property because its already difficult and my place of work is pending a strike. He got all defensive and said that he spends more money than I do and he cant keep paying for 2 places. I told him that I actually pay more than him because I cover property taxes etc. He had the nerve to tell me that its because I live at the home. I told him ITS HIS HOME ALSO!!! He chose to leave!!! He started to tell me that I wasnt in the position to MOVE and I should rent. I asked him why is he continuously pushing for that? He told me that I wasnt in the position to move and if he was mean he would have made me leave a long time ago and he got real mouthy and told me that relationships and marriages dont work out and DONT think that Ms. Ferret is pregnant because she is not.
He made my head hurt. I started to cry and then he stopped. He said that he is "willing to work things out with me regarding the strike situation BUT a decision needed to be made regarding the property.
I have prayed about my situation for over a year and have Thanked God for being faithful for me. I havent bothered to contact my husband again.
I have prayed for the salvation of that FERRET beleive it or not. I have prayed that for over a year also. It was very hard at first but I managed to do that.
I dedicated the entire weekend to prayer and released the entire situation to God.
I met with a prayer partner on Friday and I told her what was going on. She read me a passage about Gods will and at times what people think what the right thing is or what makes sense. She said at times it doesnt work out that way. My husbands name was put on the continous prayer list at church . I had to go in early this morning to vote regarding strike posiiton. I would find out March 24th midnight if I would be locked out or not.
A friend of mine doesnt think that my husband will force me out but if he is not willing to come back home.. and maybe its in Gods will for him not to come back.
Many times when I was talking with my husband , he would talk over me and said if I was dead what would you do? I said, your not dead. At times I feel like when I start talking that I dont make any sense at all. My christian counsellor at work that my husband acts that way because what I tell him is the truth and he doesnt want to hear it. He still referred to me as his wife. I said really? He said.. yes you are I am still married to you.
Sometimes I honestly think that the more that I try to do the right thing... the more I get shafted.
Your counselor is right it is conviction.
But with your husband moving out and you possessing the property, I believe that it is your choice if you move out or not.
Anyway, you are doing what you need with leaving it with Christ. Continue to do so.
If you saw the movie "Fireproof" (Kirk Cameron) you will see that what you are enduring is exactly what he went through and more. I pray in faith that you will achieve what your heart desires, which is a happy, fulfilled marriage. All I can say is that Day 1 is the hardest but a first step in the right direction. God sees your heart and keep trying in faith, love, and with patience with the 40 day process for your marriage.
Your house situation is very similar to mine. My husband was telling me I needed to move out. That I owed it to him. Based on my situation him saying that I owe him that is INSANE. Anyways, that is one of two areas I would NOT budge (second being helping him file for divorce). I was NOT going to leave. He then ended up moving out two weeks ago and now I he lays the guilt trip of him spending all this money on having to move somewhere else. I don't take it personal. It was his choice. Granted, I am now living in a house I cannot afford by myself, but KNOW God has a plan for me, so I am laying it all at his feet. Sean is right, the more you give it up to Christ and walk on that path the more your husband is going to try to do whatever he can to hurt/be angry with you. Do NOT take it personal. Just know you are doing the right thing. Continue to follow Him and He will walk/carry you through this.
thank you so much for your support. I have a testimony to share with all of you. The last couple of weeks have been very stresful regarding my employment situation and going on strike. Through prayers and the Grace of God the strike was averted and I am still gainfully employed!!!
My husband called at least one time during the strike negotiations to ask about the situation. He started to joke around and it made me very suspicious and on my guard. I am sometimes weary of telling him anything because he may report it right back to the Ferret. I spent a majoirity of time in prayer regarding everything especially with the house. I will continue to stay at home for as long as I could. I have money from a part time job in which I can contribute to the mortgage. It is exactly the amount my husband is asking for if someone were to rent. I just started putting the money there on a monthly basis. I also figured out why my husband wants me to rent instead of selling. He is living in a geared to income building with the Feret. She did not report that he is living with her and she is paying an extremely low rent. He wants to keep the property to show that he is a resident at another address. That is the conclusion that I came to. If that is true it totally sickens me. As time goes on, I feel like this man is wired for sin and he should just go on his merry way.
Today is his sisters bday. I sent her a tulip floral arrangement and she received it yesterday morning. She called me and thanked me over and over again. She told me that it really MADE HER DAY and she would like to visit with me soon. She told me that her children and relatives may take her out for dinner or something during the day.
My husband called me about half an hour ago . He said that he wanted to remind me that it was "my best friends BIRTHDAY". At first, I didnt know what he was talking about and he said, its my sisters birthday . I said, yes I know. I spoke with her already. He said OH I SEE. WELL IM going over there NOW... I said, thats nice. enjoy. and he hung up real fast. I didnt understand what the purpose of that was. Was he trying to rub it in my face that he and the Ferret are going with other family members to celebrate and Im not included?
Today is Palm Sunday and I focussed really on my relationship with Jesus and the purpose of his death and the forgiveness of our sins because of the Lords sacrifce.
It made me think of how my husband reasons with his behaviour and actions to do what he pleases and that he will be blessed by God even though he continues with his ways. His obnoxious pride and deep welled stubborness is causing him to forget about everything he has learned.
God will deal with him. You need not worry about that at all. Keep your journey with Christ at the front of your life.
Your husband is not liking your testimony. That is why he needs to call you for foolish reasons.
Christ has Died. Christ has Risen. Christ will Come Again.!!!
I hope everyone had a blessed and peaceful Easter!!
I have a revelation experience that I would like to share .
I had a pretty difficult time mid week until Saturday. I think that I was being attacked by the enemy and I had very negative thoughts and energy.
I dedicated most of Saturday night on prayer regarding my situation and future and when I awoke on Sunday morning (Easter) I felt an overwhelming peace and calmness.
Before service, I was watching an episode of MAD MEN and I thought entered my mind regarding my marriage and present situation. Very clear and LOUD the thought was.. return to your dares.... she will be gone !!! At first, I thought it was a dream or something else. I just hope that I will be able to carry out what I was asked to do because at times I feel like that Feret and everyone else that has cursed us have achieved their aim.
Here is the problem with that thought. Their aim was to satisfy their own selfishness and desires, not to destroy you.
When you have thoughts that turn you negative, you need to commit it to prayer to rid yourself of those.
Thanks for your response. I have been trying to prayed regarding the negative thoughts. I feel like the enemy is attacking me. I had a lot of trouble sleeping last night. I started to become paranoid about EVERYTHING!!!
What I was asking is about the message that I received when I was watching tv. I very loud message came to mind regarding the Love Dare and my current situation.
As soon as I picked up the book and started to review and reflect on prayer the negative thoughts started to flood over. Thats why I feel like I am being attacked by the enemy.