I am going through something very similar. My husband told me less than a month and a half ago that he still cared about me and loved me, but just wasn't in love with me anymore. I am 5 months pregnant with our first child so this has been extremely rough. He has already moved in with a new girlfriend. He has already said that he is going to file for divorce. I am trusting in God for a miracle. I know only He can mend my marriage. I am praying for my husband daily. We were both in church strong and then we both drifted away. I have been strengthening my relationship with God but he is running. Don't give up hope. God can and will do mighty things. I will keep you in my prayers.
Jerica, Have you started the journey with the dare?
Today is my first day. God laid it on my heart to get up earlier before I go to work and pray for my husband. I also very much believe God's will is for restoration in marriage, so I started this journey.
Praise God. Each day will be filled with Blessings.
Can this be done when you're not married, but live together and willing to marry...?
I would have to say yes. But there is a dare that has to do with Sex, and would not be recommended if your unmarried.
Yes, i know, i totally understand about the sex thing. actually, we live together but we dont do it anymore. Im 3 months pregnant, i was ready to live him, we were fighting way too much, but i know there is a purpose of God in this. One day he told me that he wanted to marry me and the he had decided that i will be the only one in his life... But there are many things that we do wrong in a relationship which is; we like to play games with each other and that is the majority of people. It ruins any kind of relationship. That is one of the things that ruined mine. We're confused about what love really is. And once we start doing this love dare thing we can see what love really is. That's why it's not easy, im on day 21, wanted to give up many times during this journey. It's been really painful to hear from him that he doesnt love me, and it hurts even more to know that the dare of tomorrow i have to say the opposite... that i love him even though he doesnt love me in return... and I kept thinking about this the whole day that i might not have the courage to say that to him knowing that he will reject it and even say what i dont want to hear... definately not an easy journey, no woner why so many people gave up .... but i dont want to give up, i made a promise to God and i have to do it...
This is a journey between you and Christ not you and your significant other. Trust Christ and love Him first. This way you can love better
true!! thank youu
Hi. I am new to this and need prayer. I am starting the Love Dare and day one is tomorrow morning. I am asking for prayer for my husband of almost 34 years (Mar 17). He is a acolohic for the last 12 years and has said the most vial things to me and not remember. He seems to have lost his faith and taunts me about mine. I know that the dare is not about changing him but making my relationship stronger with God. He complains about the lack of intamicy in our marriage and threatens to cheat. He is on the internet all the time with women and I feel he really doesn't care for me anymore. I have been hurt by to the core when he tells me how little worth I have and wishes he had never married me .... and I admit I have struck back from that hurt but I am going to try and refrain from that. I actually fear for his salvation more than anything. We were both in church most of our lives it have been the last 12 or so that we have not been ... I continue to read my Bible and try to stay strong but sometimes I feel like giving up and just packing it in and leaving. Any advice and especially prayers are welcome.
thank you . I bought the book today and have planned to start tomorrow. Tonight I have been collecting my thoughts, studying scriptures and praying for this journey.
What I was advised from the start was that this is not about winning your spouse back, but about your relationship with Christ. If you focus on that and let Christ do the work in your spouse, you will be right on track with what this journey is all about. It is not easy and you are starting it in a great way - in prayer. Continue with that each day. Any moment, you feel discouraged, a negative thought, a negative feeling, wanting to give up - go immediately to prayer. God is with you every step of the way. One of my favorite poems that I often have been reminded of during this journey is Footprints. Not sure if you are familiar with it, but the line I always go back to is "when you saw only when set of footprints, it was then that I carried you." You are NOT alone in this!
Here is the good news and bad new. Good news is that it seems even with your husbands actions now, he has had Christ in his life before. The bad news is, for him, he has asked Christ in his life before. Which means much of his actions now are mocking Christ in a way. But over all it is good. Because when you ask Christ into your life, He never forsakes us. Yes He will allow us to take back control, but His plan is way more solid than ours.
With that said. You are hitting the nail on the head. Worry about his salvation at the moment. That is not a selfish concern, that is a pure concern.
Let me tell you a few things about the dare before you start. First never look ahead at days. This is a journey where you will trust Christ no matter what. You will not manipulate the dares to do them your way, but Christs way.
When you have time, take about 15 minutes and read in the appendix about leading the heart. This may give you some insight to your husbands journey right now in the world. But most importantly it will give you insight to yours going forward.
The reason your husband taunts you about your faith is because of his convictions... As you go down this journey it will get worse. Remember God will never lets us go, He will never forsake us.
I know God is with me ... I could not have made it this far if He hadn't been. I know the journey isn't going to be easy but I am determined to go forth. I have been praying and keeping my head in my Bible. My main objective is to strengthen myelf through Christ in order to continue living no matter what comes or may go. I hope this doesn't sound selfish but I know I cannot change anyone or hold on to any one ... I have to find my happiness in Christ and let the rest be taken care of by Him. Thank you for all the advise and especially the prayers. I will keep intouch and like Phi. 4:13 "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me"
Please if anyone can reccommend other scripture to help me stay strong I would greatly appreciate it.
Other recommended scriptures - Jeremiah 29:11 and Psalm 23.